You don’t have to do this.

Today’s post at the Register is not one of the funny ones, I’m warning you!  I’m thinking about what  Planned Parenthood is really saying to girls, and what kind of help it offers.  (Hint:  my husband thought the picture of Kronos eating his children was too much, so I took it off.)



  1. I’ve been thinking a lot about what I would have said to that young couple. I think I would have been tempted to ask them if they were planning to get married. I think their response would be a great segue.

    Or I could just say that my third child was conceived due to condom failure…that might be just enough to make them think. 😉

  2. That is a great article. I wish somebody had told me, when I was in college and engaged to a man who would NOT end up being my husband, that I didn’t have to do it.

    When I did meet the man who would become my husband, he was a devout Catholic and had remained a virgin, and intended to remain so until the wedding night. I had returned to the Church and was so happy to have met him. I remember talking to my best friend from college, who was living with her boyfriend (later her husband) and she asked if we were having sex. I said, ‘No.” She said, ‘But how do you NOT?”

    I think i said something like, “Well, how do we NOT drink and drive?” How do we NOT do anything that we know could have unfortunate consequences? And I’m not speaking about babies. I have counseled enough single moms and one mother who became a mother through sexual assault to know that babies are not consequences, they are a blessing, sometimes a blessing through trial. But the real consequences of sex before marriage include self-loathing, regret, a cheapening of desire.

    What makes me very sad is when I hear people comparing premarital sex to a test drive of a car. They assume that sex should be fantastic and wonderful from the start. But if it is, then where do you go from there? A good sexual relationship is a journey of discovery.

  3. yes of course I meant pro _life_, and I should explain that I don’t wish for anybody to set any part of themselves on fire, or even that I posted it to bother anyone. Most of the folks over there will appreciate it. I just know how it tends to roll.

  4. We live outside of LA, and I got this notice of a weekend event:

    Planned Parenthood L.A. Food Fare
    What: More than 150 of the city’s top restaurants, wineries, and caterers dish their gastronomic delights for a good cause.
    Why: It’s a rare opportunity to feel good about yourself after pigging out.
    When: Thurs., 10:30 a.m.-2 p.m. & 6:30-9:30 p.m.
    Where: Santa Monica Civic Auditorium, 1855 Main St., b/t Pico Blvd. & Olympic Dr., Santa Monica (213-284-3316). Tickets ($150-$225) online at

    That’s a lot of money for a “good cause.” I always thought Planned Parenthood was just a government agency. I didn’t realize that people actively supported it. I guess I was just naive.

    I have to say that I never respond to blogs, but I enjoy your posts so much that I wanted to chime in. You had mentioned at the beginning of the year that you didn’t “do” anything last year. One thing you did for me is you made this professedly weak Catholic think more about her faith. And on top of that, your fantastic writing and insight have given me and my husband many many occasions to roll on the floor laughing! Thank you.

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